When I was a young lad, I used to tuck my penis in between my legs and skip around, giggling, while saying things like, “I am a girl!! I have a vagina!”
Charming, right? Oh and that is just the beginning – I was a very emotional little fella…the strawberry and whipped cream on top of everyones shortcake, if you will.
With no father in my life, I was raised by my mother, my grandma, and my two aunts (and their girlfriends.) Even my best friends were my two girl cousins. Lemme hear someone say “hey hayyyyy”
I can’t even begin to communicate how much of my childhood I identified as Jasmine from the Disney movie Aladin, or how many times I dressed up as a girl and my family would put dresses, lipstick and makeup on me, so I was happy for the day while playing dollhouse with my girlfriends (my cousins.) But wait…there’s more. I’d take it a step further and snoop into someones “unmentionables” drawer to throw a bra and panties on top of my clothing, because I was just that friskaaay.
Simply ‘faboo,’ I was.
All of this wonderful adventure and exploring only led to one inevitable fact. I still had a penis. Why in the name of everything that is Holy, would I have a penis when my brain identified as women. Ugh, I should have been transgender, then maybe I’d be happy and wouldn’t have the wife and two daughters like I do.
Gasp…the pain the suffering.
Someone get Ryland Michael Whittington on the phone, I need a consult.
So, if you haven’t caught on, I actually do have a point to this little story of mine (which I might add is 100% true.)
Recently, a viral video hit the internet centered around a transgender child named Ryland. If you haven’t seen the original video, or heard the story, let me summarize it for you.
((Intro the Brady bunch theme song:))
“There was 5 year old, by the name of Ryland,
who was born a girl but thought she was a boy,
she had two parents, ignorant and passive,
and they let Ryland become a boy.
Transgender bunch, transgender bunch…that is how they all become the transgender bunchhh”
Well, I guess that is one way to #banbossy – just let your little girl be a man from the get go.
Ok, in all seriousness, the original video is at the bottom of this article if you are interested in watching it. Most people are finding the story to be very heartfelt and inspiring, while others, including some of the Whittingtons family and friends, are trying to figure out why they now have to think of their once little princess, Ryland, as Ryu from Street Fighter.
So, let’s break this down a little.
Here are a few of the Whittington Family’s opening statements in their transgender presentation:
- As soon as Ryland could speak, she would scream “I am a boy”
- She began to show aversion to anything feminine – it was easiest to call Ryland a “tomboy”
- She said, “When the family dies, I will cut my hair so I can be a boy.”
- Through tears she asked, “Why did God make me like this?”
Okay, so let me get this straight. Because your child had undeveloped and immature thoughts like all 5 year olds, it was okay for you to dismiss your job as the parent and just run with it? When she asked “Why did God make me like this?,” you didn’t think to actually answer her question and educate her?
These opening statements were followed up by this bold claim:
She may have been only 5 years old, but we needed to truly start listening.
This statement should have read, “she WAS only a 5 year old, so we decided to intervene and take responsibility as parents to teach and educate our child.”
In all honesty, how distorted can this world become? It is okay for parents and doctors to step in, diagnose their 2 year old with ADHD and give them drugs; all because they don’t want to listen, are over enthusiastic about life, can’t focus, or cry when they have to stop playing…but the second your child identifies as the opposite gender, it is 100% their choice and you as the parent need to ‘truly start listening?’
It is like parents now-a-days either want to drug their kids to make them listen, or let them do whatever their childish brains please. This is what happens when things get out of order.
And then, Ryland’s parents had the audacity to say, “Ryland’s gender identity was not caused by our parenting style, family structure or environmental factors.”
What?? It was because of your passiveness that you allowed your child to make such a decision. That seems like a parenting style/structure to me…an unhealthy one at that.
What if your 5 year old kid wanted a tattoo so they could look like daddy, or didn’t want to go to school, or disowned you as parents, or didn’t think they should have been born with two hands, or wanted to start having sex in middle school, or wanted to be a super-hero? Are you going to replace their face with a mask and sew a cape into their back while they have sex with their best friend Chuckie from down the road?
If you want your kid to experience complete love, joy and happiness (which is why they claim to have supported their 5 year old’s decision, to make Ryland happy and unashamed) then let HER explore dressing up as a boy, playing sports, wrestling, and doing other manly things – and then teach your kid about order, how things work, as they begin to understand those things etc.
You can allow freedom and open-mindedness to be present in your child’s life, in an understanding way, without being an overbearing and controlling parent.
How would a 5 year old even comprehend or fathom how their decision now affects the rest of their life. Further more, if you are saying you had NOTHING to do with the choice, then also make sure you have nothing to do with sustaining that choice.
After all, 5 year old kids DO change their minds.
What happens when Ryland discovers when she is 8, 9 or 10 that she actually likes the thought of being a girl, dating cute guys, being walked down the aisle by her husband, having kids of her own, being asked to prom, or wearing heels and carrying purses, etc. Are you going to let her make that decision to go back, or in your distortion are you going to step in and say, “No Ryland, you are a boy now…there is no going back. Being a boy isn’t just a childish phase for you.”
Does your child know the decision she makes now can also alter your family legacy? What happens when she wants children with her…um, wife?
Why not just have the dad and mom switch roles and start identifying as the other, so that way your kid doesn’t understand genders at all and you can rid your family of gender barriers all together. Then you can finally just have humans/organisms from now on in your family tree. No more Uncles, Aunts, Grandma’s and Grandpas, just family members, all equal, all the same, identifying as they please.
The Sad Ending
I could go on and on about the confusion, distortion and lack of order that stories like this pollute the world with, but it won’t change anything. The world continues to get darker and darker through the generations.
The only thing we can do is bring light to distorted situations, and pray.
Now before anyone goes on a tangent about me being a Christian or having a biased view, or not understanding biblical principles, consider this: I didn’t mention 1 bible verse or even say the name of Christ, Jesus or God in this writing – I didn’t need to.
I am simply calling out a situation that is very messed up and out of order. All thoughts are welcome.